The issue isn’t always the person — it’s the system around them There was a stretch when my daughters — twins, same school, same class — were late for school every day. Naturally, the blame started flying. One was “disorganized.” Not trying hard enough. The other, hyper-competitive, would rather leave her sister behind than risk being late herself. The easy conclusion? One needs to step up. The other needs to be more supportive. But stepping back, the pattern told a different